DON'T FALL IN LOVE WITH YOUR BEST FRIEND (PART II)

Monday, October 13, 2008

As follows;


Rainiee; says:
hey
Melaisis says:
raaaaaaaihaaaaaan
Melaisis says:
do some more posts about loving your best friend. our analytics love it :P
Rainiee; says:
hahahaa whaat


such a bad influence.



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I typed my previous title into google and my article came up first in all its glory :) (i know it's probably 90% chance that it would, but still - newbie here, cut some slack!) The article that follows it is; "How to fall in love with your best friend". Contradiction or whaat?! Anyways why would you want to do that? WHY WHY WHYYY. You're just going to get hurt. Silly people obviously didn't read my previous article...

Actually, I'm really annoyed with that article now. It's quite short. So I'm going to briefly explain why it's just wrong... In general. And I'll apologise in advance that the rebuttals might get a little, well, personal... But hey, experience counts for everything right?


How to Fall in Love With Your Best Friend
The best romantic partner is also your best friend: someone you can talk to about anything, someone you can trust entirely (so if you fall out with them you lose your boyfriend AND your best friend? whooo that's gonna be funnn), and someone whose company you will enjoy for every second of your relationship (which will probably limit you to one person, and you'll be one of those really annoying couples that hates anyone who gets near their partner regardless of the sex, just cos they're "taking them away"). Most people already have such a person in their lives - their best friend! (Actually, several - but it won't be for long if that one person has a double role in your life) But if you want to take that a level further, especially if your best friend is already in love with you, it may be worth taking the chance! (If they were already in love with you, you'd have sorted this out by now, instead of trying to make yourself fall in love with them. You were either in love or you weren't at the time you found out. DUH)
The problem is, sometimes people have a mental barrier set for seeing their best friend as only a friend and nothing more. (Really? Just sometimes? Golly I didn't know that) This article will try to give you some tips for breaking that barrier and falling in love with your best friend! (Jesus... Yeah i'd like to see you try)
By the way I'd like to dedicate this article to my best friend, whom I love with all my heart and wouldn't be able to live without. =) Oh fuck off...


1. Don't be afraid to ruin the friendship. You're already best friends and you know how to work out your problems and stop fighting. If you really are close and a further relationship doesn't work out, you can go back to being just friends. Yes, it may be painful and it may take some time - consider this as a test of true friendship. (Actually if the break up is really bad you won't still be friends at the other end. And the break up will have to be bad, cos youre BEST FRIENDS, who wants to fall out with one of those?)



2. Talk to your best friend both about your current relationship and about the possibilities, and you may find out that you're both interested in each other.
(Been there, done that. The most awkward thing ever. A month later and it's hardly recovered. Possibly screwed up our friendship for life)



3. Make a list of all of your best friend's qualities that you really like and respect. Now, make a list of all the things you want from a romantic relationship. Finally, grab a highlighter and highlight the qualities that match: it may surprise you!
(Well that's just stupid. Obviously you're going to have many qualities that match. They're your best friend after all - you're bound to be like-minded otherwise you wouldn't have gone this deep. It's always been that way and you don't have to be 'in love' to know it)



4. Use your imagination: think what it would be like to be closer to your best friend, and it may give you a hint to how much you would enjoy it.
(No no no no nooo. As a general rule; dreams/fantasies seldomly come true. They were probably wayy more romantic/responsive/PERFECT in your dream for a start...)



5. Set a romantic mood and do something together as friends, such as going to the beach, doing a dance, or having a candlelight dinner alone. You may find that new feelings surface when the atmosphere is right. (LOLLL candlelight dinner alone? You do that with friends?? God, I'm so behind with the times...)



6. Share your dreams together. Often, talking together about the future makes you realize that you want to spend the future together. (Actually, we always do that. It's what best friends do. And of course you're gonna spend the future together in some way, you're supposed to be friends forever... Does this person even know what a best friend is? I have a slight feeling that they their boyfriend became their best friend... Instead of the other way round)



7. Take your time. Falling in love is not a quick process, and you should make sure that you are fully ready to take your relationship with your best friend further before you do so. Good luck! (And lastly, you don't MAKE YOURSELF FALL IN LOVE. It's an involuntary thing. If you do, it's so obviously fake. So yeah, I'm going to wish you luck too...)



Sorry, was I bitter?


In conclusion, you can do (most - excluding the candlelit dinner) of those things just as best friends, don't underestimate how deep friendships get if you try. And for godssakes if you're falling in love with your best friend, at least have some class and don't do it because you think it's the only way to save them since they like you! Or because it's convenient. (Both of which are stated) That's just.... Wrong.


there.

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